by Finbarr Toesland
(Finbarr Toesland is an award-winning journalist committed to illuminating vital LGBTQ stories and underreported issues. His journalism has been published by NBC News, BBC, Reuters, VICE, HuffPost and The Telegraph. The following piece appears courtesy of and with permission from the National LGBT Media Association.)
It’s no secret that LGBTQ people face a range of financial challenges that heterosexual people simply don’t have to contend with. But less discussed are the effects of financial discrimination on building LGBTQ generational wealth.
The stereotypical view of a wealthy gay couple with no children and a sizable disposable income is just that — a stereotype. In reality, the “American Dream” — buying a home, getting married, having kids, finding a good job and investing in a 401(k) — is out of reach for many LGBTQ people, according to a survey by TD Ameritrade. Almost two thirds (35 percent) of LGBTQ millennials say they are unlikely to achieve these goals by age 40, compared to fewer than half of straight millennials.
The same survey found that while the average annual income for a straight household is $79,400, the average LGBTQ household earns just $66,200 a year.
LGBTQ people are being left out of generational wealth for many reasons — including family rejection, systematic barriers and a lack of financial education. With almost half of LGBTQ adults saying they have been excluded by a family member or close friend as a result of their sexual orientation or gender identity, according to a study by the Pew Research Center, a lack of familial financial support is a common problem for many in the community.
This combination of unique financial barriers that LGBTQ people face is what has led to a generational wealth gap. It’s a problem that will only affect more queer people if we don’t address it now.
It’s not uncommon for LGBTQ people at all stages of life to encounter financial challenges that their heterosexual counterparts won’t face. Being kicked out of their homes as teens due to unaccepting parents, not receiving financial support from family for college, being removed from an inheritance — the financial cost of being LGBTQ can be substantia
With the average inheritance reaching close to $177,000, according to an HSBC survey and Cerulli Associates forecasting that up to $68 trillion will trickle down to younger generations within 25 years, LGBTQ heirs could collectively lose trillions through inheritance exclusion.
“Even much smaller amounts could help folks pay off debt, pay off a home, send their own kids to college and help them with their own retirement. Many LGBTQ kids aren’t getting these benefits,” explains John Auten-Schneider, co-owner of The Debt Free Guys blog and host, with his husband David, of the Queer Money podcast.
When David’s parents pass away, David’s sister will likely be inheriting upwards of $1,000,000. Yet, David says, he won’t receive any of this money, solely because he’s gay. “His parents have every right to do with their money what they want, but it’s a particular disappointment that they’ll do this only because he’s gay,” says John. “This, of course, means we need to plan differently for our retirement than his sister does.”
Younger LGBTQ people also face challenges directly related to their sexuality or gender identity.
A disproportionately high number of young people experiencing homelessness — 20 percent to 45 percent — identify as members of the LGBTQ community. Lacking access to basic housing or financial support from family can set up a young person for economic disadvantage before they even graduate from high school.
LGBTQ students also shoulder a larger student debt burden than their straight peers to the tune of an extra $16,000. “This has been attributed, in part, to LGBTQ college students assuming more debt simply to leave hostile home lives. In some cases, parents may forgo helping their queer children in favor of helping their straight children,” explains John.
At the start of 2020, Michigan-based Lexa VanDamme was at her financial rock bottom. Stuck with a 70-plus hour work week, no money in her bank account, bills due the next day and a broken-down car, she decided to make a change.
“I realized that I needed to face my financial situation,” says VanDamme. “I dove deep into the online world of personal finance to learn about budgeting, debt payoff methods, saving and investing.”
After her crash course in finance, VanDamme refinanced her credit card debt into a lower-rate personal loan, created a workable budget and started a side hustle to make extra income. There were a few bumps on her journey: “I actually cycled back into credit card debt three different times. I would pay it off, then eventually max it out a few months later,” she admits. Still, she managed to pay off her debt by following the financial rules she had set for herself.
While trying to learn about personal finance on her own, VanDamme realized there was a need for accessible and relatable content that appealed to a wide range of people. She decided to create The Avocado Toast Budget. Starting out as a blog just over a year ago, The ATB now counts more than 400,000 followers on Tiktok.
“For the longest time, the loudest voices in the personal finance community were cis, straight white males, and, as a queer woman, I wanted to share information and tips that were often overlooked by those creators,” VanDamme explains.
As with many LGBTQ people, after spending so long hiding who she really was, she wanted to live as true to herself and be as free as possible. “This led to me ignoring my spending habits, and being stuck in the paycheck-to-paycheck cycle. Airing my financial dirty laundry brought up similar feelings of anxiety and concern I felt when first coming out. How would people react? What would they think?” says VanDamme.
There is already a heavy stigma around talking about personal finances, especially when you may be struggling financially. “Since queer people often spend our lives fighting for the world to accept us and our queerness, we may be less apt to talk about our financial insecurities and struggles,” VanDamme says.
Genuine representation goes beyond just diversifying the financial content creators who receive media platforms, with the advice given by these experts also needing to be fully inclusive. “Advice tended to ignore how systems of oppression affect people of color, women, the LGBTQ community and more. We know statistically that it’s easier for some to build wealth than others,” she adds.
VanDamme has an ongoing series on Instagram focused on the intersectional nature of many financial issues. The series helps shed some light on the economic realities that often contribute to minority community challenges. From financial inequality that disproportionately impacts disabled people to wealth inequity and racism and the cycle of poverty, VanDamme works to educate her audience on pressing topics that matter to them.
“It’s especially important to talk about the financial challenges that trans people in our community face. This includes increased reports of lower wages, limited and more expensive housing options, and twice the rate of unemployment. This heavily impacts their ability to build wealth,” she notes.
While being LGBTQ can underpin unique money issues, queer people of color and queer women often experience additional difficulties around financial matters. In addition to the financial barriers faced by LGBTQ people, queer people of color also face a racial wealth gap to which employment discrimination, systematic inequalities and disparities in financial education all contribute.
According to research from the Federal Reserve, the average white family’s wealth is eight times higher than the wealth of an average Black family. The gender pay gap also contributes to excluding women from building generational wealth, according to the latest statistics compiled by Pew Research, which show that women earned 84 percent of what men earned in 2020.
Carmen Perez, creator of Make Real Cents, a personal finance blog dedicated to helping people achieve financial independence, believes it’s important to have experts who are more representative of the people they’re speaking to. “I heard a quote a while ago: ‘You can’t be what you can’t see.’ I think that’s really important because eventually, if you don’t have a model to follow, either you have to be the first or it’s never going to happen,” she says.
As a woman of color and a lesbian, Perez knows firsthand how important it is to address the absence of representation in financial education. “It’s definitely one of the things we have to step back and look at in the LGBT community,” says Perez. “There [are a] lot of hurdles up against a lot of folks in this space,” she says.
With more than 60,000 people following her Make Real Cents account, Perez is playing a part in democratizing access to finance.
There, she does everything from break down the cost of credit to explain 401(k) company matches with easy-to-read graphics and Insta stories. Her methods are a world away from the complexity of some traditional financial advisors and tools.
“Millennials are starting to change the money game because we’re delivering advice in a way that isn’t super technical. It can be so overwhelming to watch CNBC with all these screens and tickers that don’t mean anything to you personally,” says Perez. “We’re finding instances where people who have been historically locked out of the finance industry, by design, are speaking up. Unlike some traditional financial advisors that give out all this jargon and talk in all these terms that many may not understand.”
Despite the long-standing barriers facing LGBTQ people, LGBTQ personal finance content creators now offer a way for many to improve their financial literacy in more convenient ways than ever before. While investing early and regularly is one of the most effective ways to secure a financially comfortable retirement, it’s never too late to build wealth and support for the next generation of LGBTQ people.
“[You can] create legacy wealth within the LGBTQ community by setting up your estate plan to donate to LGBTQ causes that will help homeless youth and [by] giving to local, younger LGBTQ folks you know personally,” says John.
Negotiating the LGBTQ generational wealth gap is no small feat. But continuing the discussion around both financial literacy and taking steps to combat systematic financial issues can go a long way to address the financial challenges impacting the LGBTQ community.
Concludes John, “The stronger we are as LGBTQ individuals and allies, including our financial strength, the stronger we are as a community.”